Originally posted: Jan 24, 2021
Having my Bachelor’s degree in Education, I’ve always found myself feeling most satisfied with helping others gain knowledge and learn different skills. Being involved in the BDSM and fetish communities for nearly 20 years, I’ve been able to guide people of all experience levels to more satisfying play and dynamics. Individuals and couples of various relationship types have sought me out as a wellness coach so that they can have more fulfilling relationships and greater intimacy, not necessarily kink related.
One of my most recent clients has given me permission to share a bit about my work with them in hopes that others will see how their life has improved. All names have been changed to protect their anonymity.
Sarah came to me about 10 months ago to work on self love, healing, and connection with partners. She had recently come out of a toxic and very abusive relationship that had diminished her self worth and confidence. One of the first things we worked on was letting go of that relationship. It’s not always the easiest thing to do. She is still in the process of that but no longer feels such strong attachments to that person. Some days she felt like she was going backwards but I kept reminding her that healing is not linear and to be gentle with herself.
Through the help of healing crystals, Sarah was able to work through blockages in her chakras, or energy centers in the body. In partnership with crystals, we did breathwork and meditation. She was skeptical at first because it hadn’t worked for her in the past but I was able to show her several different methods. It sometimes surprises people that sitting in silence with your thoughts is not the only way to meditate. Sarah shared with me how amazing it felt to center herself and calm her body when in the past, she just felt more anxious and stressed trying meditation.
We had talked a bit about including hypnosis as part of our work together and while she was hesitant. Through many conversations, I was able to answer all her questions which helped ease her mind and allowed her to open up and she went into trance rather easily After a couple weeks of using the various post-hypnotic triggers, Sarah came to me and was absolutely ecstatic with the results. She noted a decrease in her anxiety and a boost in her libido and ability to connect intimately with new partners. There were a few sessions in which her partners joined us so that I could work with them on partnered exercises designed to bring them closer.
I have noticed a significant difference in Sarah, from her physical demeanor all the way to how she talks about herself, both as an individual and as a partner. We both know there is more work to be done but I am incredibly proud of Sarah and how far she has come. I’m really excited to continue my work with her. Mentoring and coaching others is something I have a deep passion for. It is such a joy when I see someone week after week and they start glowing more and more as time goes on. And then when partners join the session and talk about the improvements in their relationship, it fills my heart with contentment.
I want to extend a huge thank you to Sarah for allowing me to share a bit about her journey and to all my other clients who trust in me to lend support and provide guidance. Each and every one of them helps to fill my cup.